I am ready to toss Alex out the window.
I spent a couple hours this evening looking at baby names to figure out what I like, what I don't like, etc. I was so excited to finally find some names that I thought were nice and respectable. So, I shared with Alex once he got home. Bad idea. He burst my bubble in record time. I'm realizing we have a big problem. I like more traditional names and he prefers the obscure. If he had it his way the baby would have a Georgian name. (We've since axed that idea). It shouldn't bother me, but everytime he comes up with a new name I just get that much more annoyed. I'm picturing our poor kid 10 years from now getting totally harassed because his parent's gave him the most ridiculous name ever, and the kids at school can't help but make fun.
I realize there are plenty of kids running around with these names, I just don't want my son to be one of them....
Here is Alex's list (these are mostly A-C):
Beckett
Baldwin
Ballard
Barrett
Brooks
Benjamin
Berkley
Brady
Brodie
Cameron
Campbell
Carey
Here is my list:
Colin
Eli
Jesse
Justin
Jeffrey
Weston (Wes)
Mine are definitely less exciting... but I feel safer going with more traditional.
So, anyone whose been in the baby naming boat (or those who haven't), how do we remedy this problem??
I'm sure by tomorrow I won't like any of my names either.
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it's really hard picking out a name. scott didn't like any of the ones i did, but that's because i'm like alex i guess. anyway, after a few months of going through names, scott came up with one that i'm 100% sure that i already asked him about, and that was the deciding factor. so, maybe one day one of the names that you mentioned to alex will pop into his head as "his idea" and that will make the decision, or visa versa. good luck!
P.S. there's no rush either. i know plenty of people who had a couple names picked out, but then waited to see what the baby looked like to make their final decision.
My favorite baby name book is called "baby name wizard". It is the best book... you should check it out. It has all the names list in abc order under boys and girls like normal, but then also has many sections in the back when styles of names are grouped together which is also helpful. My favorite thing about the book, however, which helped us and might help you too, is that under each name is listed brother and sister names....so if you like the name listed, then you'll probably like the other names listed for brothers and sisters. When we couldn't agree either, we would start with a name one of us liked, look at the brother names and flip to one of the names one of us liked off that list then look at the brother names under the new name. Sometimes we found common ground following that trail and sometimes not, but at least it was different then just looking at a list of names alphabetically.
Also, we weren't ones that had the name totally picked out when our boys where born. For each we had a few options, but when we saw them we figured it out, so if you have to wait to see him that is fine too.
Congrats on a boy by the way.
Happy name hunting!
I 2nd the motion about the baby name wizard book! I love it... She has a website too, which is fun to look at...
My dad's list of girl names for us was usually disgusting on purpose.. Like Bertha Booth. Or Arfaxid. So, my advice would be to just wait until you meet the baby to make any final decisions. None of us ended up with atrocious names so there is hope that Booth men don't reallllly want their kids to be ridiculed. I don't hate all of Alex's names. And I especially like the last one on your list. : )
Thank you for the comments. I'm going to buy the book after work. I've looked at the website extensively and would love to have a hard reference at the house.
He's already done the "his idea" thing once. It's not unusual for me to get my ideas recycled back a few days later...
We'll agree on a name eventually. I just hope it's sooner than later, I really don't want to be sitting there a week after the baby's born with no name.
*Kristin, you've given me hope. Thank you!
Oh man, I feel your pain. We had an awful time, especially at first, we couldn't agree on anything - as you know, neither of our kids was named until after they were born. And I'm still not always sure they're the *right* names (actually, I still sometimes regret Charlotte's middle name - it's nice, but I should've pushed harder for the one I really wanted, because it was meaningful to me. Calvin's middle name is meaningful to Robert, so I sorta feel a little jipped).
In the end, I think the best thing I ever did was run all of our names by a friend of mine - neutral third party! - and ask her to do her worst as far as making fun of them. It helped a lot when it came time to pare down the list.
And definitely, if there's a name you feel really strongly about or connected to (like, it was your favorite grandmother's name or whatever) fight hard to keep it on the list!
Maybe looking up the meaning of your favorite ones will help you narrow it down some? My top two off your lists would be Beckett and Jesse. So cute! (I mean, manly-cute.)
Manipulation is key Kristine. Key to basically anything.
PS- Teri called me to check out your blog, lived below Teri and Steve, and I went to HS with Alex....so not a total ransom stalker:)
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well awesome fellow stalker! want to be blog friends? consider yourself on my 'fellow bloggers' side bar.
Congrats by the way on finding out it's a boy. I haven't checked anyone's blogs in months, but you sent that email out so thought I'd check and see if you picked a name yet. I don't think his names are that obscure or that yours are very traditional. A lot of both of yours are somewhere in between.
I can relate to your frustration because I had a running name list from when I was 8 that I changed over the years up until when I had Adrienne. Mike didn't like anything on my list!!! I couldn't believe I'd been keeping that list all those years only to never use any of them. So I told him to come up with something and he came up with Adrienne! Same thing happened with Colette, I pulled back out the name list to revisit, but his opinion hadn't changed on any of them, so again I told him to come up with something and he came up with Colette. I picked their middle names though.
Finally I can say that I named one of our children though because after only mild feelings on Jeremy and Nathaniel which were our main picks for a boy I finally came up with Edward which we were both excited about.
As far as my input on the names you've got so far I like Ballard and Colin the most.
Anyway, don't stress about it, you have a ton of time left! But it is nice to have a name because then you can refer to the baby with it's name instead of "the baby".
If you wouldn't mind, email me when you decide because I haven't had much time for being on the internet and so haven't been checking people's blogs. Now that I know you're having a boy I can see if I have some things here to give you. Talk to you later!
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